Together for nearly two decades, Emil and his partner had a strong, committed life partnership, but over the years sex had become less of a priority for Emil, and they were struggling in the bedroom.

Their relationship was open, and although his partner enjoyed an active sex life outside it, exploring gay tantra, Emil felt he’d lost focus on his own erotic development. When they did have sex together it was frustrating – Emil felt stuck in old patterns, and unable to keep up with his partner’s new level of erotic fluency.

He didn’t feel comfortable going to the gay tantra workshops his partner attended, but he wanted to find a way to learn and practice new skills, without feeling inadequate, or putting the burden of responsibility on his partner.

Although I’m not a gay tantra teacher, the learning space we created together enabled Emil to start bringing more awareness to his own sensuality and sexual expression.

Having someone alongside with skills to support and guide him interactively, and permission to explore whatever he wanted, Emil was surprised by the range of his own erotic desires, which he’d never previously given much attention to. This ignited his excitement and curiosity to re-engage with his partner as a more equal lover.