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How to ask for consent – the 6 essential words you need

From the bedroom to the boardroom (and everywhere else as well) – when you start to use these 6 little words, you may be surprised by how useful you find them!

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How to tell if you should say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to something

It’s not what you say, it’s why you say it. Follow these simple steps and learn how to tell when to say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to something.

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The Happy Hypersexual

I’m proud to have been asked to write the forward for Jason Armstrong’s third book ‘The Happy Hypersexual’, which explores the male sexual experience in the context of a global pandemic.

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How pleasure can help shift shame

Shame and judgement can play a big part in how gay men feel about sex and desire. Learn how to give yourself permission to move beyond that

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What is mindful sex?

What is mindful sex, and how can mindful sex coaching help you? Learn about this different approach to sex and intimacy, and try out some simple ideas to get you started…

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How to create more pleasure during sex and intimacy

Did you know pleasure isn’t something anyone can give you? It happens in your own body. Discover how you can get more pleasure from gay sex.

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Getting Off – a review of Jason Armstrong’s second book

Read my in depth review for Undividing Lines Magazine of ‘Getting Off – The Unlikely Chronicles of a Solosexual On PrEP’, the new book by Jason Armstrong, author of the groundbreaking ‘Solosexual – Portrait of a Masturbator’.

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To Clench Or Not To Clench

If you think pelvic floor exercises are just for women think again – they can be a great way for gay guys to improve bedroom performance. But is all that squeezing really good for you?